When we think of tyrants, we think of Biff from Back to the Future. Tyrants have a certain “hard” look (buzz cut or not). They are big. He pushes the children around him, physically. They drive big cars or ride big bikes right in your face. They are not afraid to swear; they don’t care who listens.
All these aspects speak of the classic characteristics of a tyrant: the use of an imbalance of power. Tyrants perceive that someone is “under them”, whether physically (they are smaller), culturally (they are others, from elsewhere), intellectually (they are supposedly “stupider”) or just younger, less experienced or new. into a game or scene.
For children, it happens at school or in the neighborhood. Tyrants see children looking good, all for the reasons listed above. Tyrants gain status in this way; other children see how they act and either fear it or admire it. In any case, this leads to more bullying, through passive or active verification.
Children who testify against a tyrant actively carry the insults further. He stands side by side and praises the bully for being crazy because he thinks they look cool. Passive authentication is just as bad; they are children standing nearby and not saying a word. It gives the impression that there is nothing wrong with the situation.
The misconception is that fighting tyrants means literally defending oneself. Not that. Movies show us that defeating tyrants is a way to win. But it only escalates the situation. The real way to win over tyrants is to show solidarity. Teach your children that when they see someone being bullied, they should do one (or all) of three things:
- Speak loudly. Say that’s not right.
- Be a leader. Help the bullied person by taking him away. (You can simply say “come on, let’s go.”)
- Tell your parents and teacher. Take command – the adults are here to help you, but they don’t see everything that’s going on. Let them know and talk to them about who needs help and why.
Karate, and specifically gaining a black belt, helps children gain confidence in practicing these skills. During the acquisition of the black belt, children support each other for years in an environment that supports them. Parents are supported by instructors who have the same goal: to make children confident, reliable and exceptional human beings.
Remember this on your course to the black belt and help us suppress bullying.